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Blow jobs (oral sex)

Giving a blow job means taking your partner's penis into you mouth and satisfying him sexually in that way. It is also known as ‘oral sex’ or ‘sucking someone off’. There are several things to keep in mind to make giving blow jobs as pleasurable and as safe as possible. Blow jobs carry a risk of STIs and HIV.

Glans, testicles and perineum

  • The most sensitive place of the penis is the head or glans, and the lower edge of that (the corona) is the best part to stimulate, for example with your lips or tongue.
  • The frenulum, which connects the foreskin to the glans, also has a lot of nerve endings, which makes it another sensitive area.
  • Besides the glans, the testicles and the perineum (the area between the penis and the anus) are also good places to lick or gently suck on.

Watch out for your teeth!

When giving a blow job, you use a combination of your tongue, your lips, the inside of your mouth, your throat and your hands. Watch out for your teeth: many men won't like it if you touch their penis with your teeth. That can also lead to little cuts on the glans, and those will make it easier for STIs to be transmitted.

Using your hands while giving a blow job

Your hands are another useful instrument during oral sex.

  • Many men find it sexually exciting if you massage their balls and their perineum while you are giving them a blow job.
  • The shaft is the least sensitive part of a penis. But if you massage the shaft you can increase the flow of blood to the glans.
  • And if you squeeze it a bit, the glans will swell up, making it larger and even more sensitive. Just don't squeeze too hard!
  • You can also make your hand into a continuation of your mouth. Make the inside of your hand wet with spit. Close your hand around his penis and move your hand back and forth along with your mouth.
  • You can also beat off your partner while you are stimulating his glans with your tongue and lips.

Deep-throating without gagging

With ‘deep throating’ you take your partner's penis as deeply into your mouth as possible. Taking a penis fully into your mouth without gagging is not something that everyone is able to do. Use the following tips to keep from gagging:

  • Start out slowly and take the penis gradually deeper into your mouth as time goes by.
  • Continue to breathe slowly and deeply. If you feel that you are about to gag, try to swallow.
  • The 69 position works best for deep throating. It's the easiest way for the penis to go deeper into your throat.
  • Don't drink alcohol or smoke before you give someone a blow job since both alcohol and nicotine will reinforce your gag reflex.

The 69 position

There are various positions you can try when you are giving a blow job. The 69 position is a classic one in that regard. It allows you to give each other blow jobs at the same time. It's easiest if one of you lies on his back or if you both lie on your side.

STIs / HIV and blow jobs

From giving blow jobs you can get various different STIs such as gonorrhea (the clap), chlamydia, syphilis and Hepatitis B.

  • Those are possible even if no one comes in your mouth.
  • You can prevent the transmission of STIs and HIV by using a condom during oral sex.
  • Most men don't find that very pleasurable, however. If you give blow jobs without a condom, make sure you get tested for STIs once every six months.
  • Precum is not dangerous in terms of HIV. However, getting sperm in your mouth would put you at risk of getting HIV.
  • For that reason, make sure that the man you are giving a blow job to does not come in your mouth but withdraws in time.

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