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Sex toys

Toys are meant to enhance your sex life, whether you are alone or together with a sex partner. There are all kinds of tools that you can use to make sex more fun and more pleasurable: sex toys. The variety is incredible: from dildos, vibrators and buttplugs to 'fuck sleeves', cockrings, nipple clamps and BDSM toys. What is available, how and for purpose should you use them, and how can you keep them clean to avoid transmitting STIs and HIV?

Use lube with your toys

  • Use plenty of lube with dildos and buttplugs.
  • Silicon-based lube will stay wet longer than water-based lube.
  • That will help keep your anus supple and you won't damage the inside of your intestinal canal.

Preventing discomfort and accidents

If you have never been fucked, a dildo or buttplug can be a good tool to practice with. Start with a model that isn't too wide. The advantage of a buttplug is that, thanks to its form, it will stay in place once you have inserted it. Use toys or other objects that have a wider rim on the bottom to prevent them from accidentally disappearing inside completely.

  • Besides excitement and pleasure, toys can also bring health risks.
  • When using kinky sex toys, be careful not to damage to your skin and/or mucus membrane and to avoid cutting off your circulation, suffocating or getting electric shocks.

Accidents with a dildo or vibrator

Has your dildo disappeared inside you? Squat down and continue breathing calmly. Put extra lube in your anus and push out lightly as if you were trying to shit. In most cases, the dildo will slide out again naturally. Is the dildo not coming out on its own or is it a vibrating dildo that has slid inside? In that case, go to a hospital to avoid damaging your rectum.

Sharing sex toys

You can use a sex toy on your own, but it can also be exciting to share it with a sex partner. Will you and your sex partner be using the same dildo, buttplug or other anal toy together? In that case, put a condom and plenty of lube on the toy. Change the condom each time you take turns using the toy. With soap and water, rinse the excess lube from the toy in advance.

Cleaning sex toys

If you are going to share your sex toys, sterilizing the toys is another way to prevent the transmission of HIV and other STIs. Take the time to sterilize the toys thoroughly.

  • Clean the toy each time with water and soap. Remove waste or grime and lube.
  • For a thorough cleaning, use one of the following disinfectants: 1-propanolol (available from leather and sex shops), Betadine® or chlorhexidine. Alcohol is not enough.
  • An alternative is to use bleach mixed with water. Mix one part bleach with 10 parts water. Place the toy in the 1:10 bleach solution for one minute, and then rinse the toy off with a lot more plain water.
  • Another option is to boil the sex toy. Lay the toy is a large pan with boiling water and let it cook at the same high temperature for at least three to five minutes.

The methods for cleaning sex toys mentioned above may seriously damage your toys. Hot water and soap – also in the dishwasher – can damage dildos.

Preventing Hepatitis C

  • If you and/or your sex partner has HIV, it is even more important to clean your sex toys thoroughly.
  • Hepatitis C is more common among men with HIV and transmitted more easily through the sharing of anal toys.
  • Hepatitis C can remain alive and infectious for weeks outside of the body, for example on sex toys.
  • The careful disinfection of toys will prevent the transmission of Hepatitis C.

Health and Social Support Services for Sex Workers in Europe

www.services4sexworkers.eu is a website that presents a directory of services available for sex workers in 25 European countries, and legal information regarding sex work, migration and access to health.

An European network of 26 organisations in 25 EU countries, which works with and for sex workers since 1993, and advocates for sex workers' rights.

www.services4sexworkers.eu informs sex workers, health and social workers about respectful and non-discriminatory support available across Europe.


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