###pagedesc###
Change language Kinky seks en fetisjKinky sex and fetish

Kinky sex and fetish

Kinky sex, fetish and BDSM are collective terms for different sexual techniques and sexual preferences. Preferences that are relatively common among gay men include the smell or the feel of leather, rubber, feet or urine (piss). But also fisting, pain and submission give some men a lot of pleasure. Kinky sex and fetish have to do with specific sexual preferences (also known as ‘kinks’), for example with regard to certain materials, bodily fluids or sexual techniques. Interest in kinky sex can arise gradually, or it can stem from desires that you have already had for a long time.

Kinky sex on the Internet

  • Thanks to the Internet, it is easier for many men to discover new sexual techniques without having to visit specific bars or parties.
  • Kinky sex and fetish used to be more strongly connected to certain 'scenes' than they are now.
  • Back then, kinky sex was not accessible to everyone. In the meantime, all sorts of profile websites and dating apps have been developed for men with kinky inclinations. That means it's much easier to look for sex partners who are open to doing the same kinds of things that you like to do.
  • On the Internet, all sorts of abbreviations are commonly used, such as sub, FF and CBT. Here is an overview of commonly used codes and abbreviations.

Unusual sexual preferences

  • As long as kinky sex takes place with the consent of both sex partners and you both enjoy it, there is nothing deviant or perverse about kinky sex.
  • When it concerns sex and the body, our society has a surprisingly strong set of values and standards.
  • Intimacy, tenderness and equality between sex partners are all considered important, as are hygiene and keeping your body clean.
  • Fetish and kinky sexual preferences often go beyond social boundaries of what is considered 'normal'.
  • This makes kinky sex all the more exciting and titillating. On the other hand, the feeling that your sexual preference might be abnormal or deviant can lead to feelings of guilt or shame.

Desires, boundaries and rules of play

In fact, the rules that hold for kinky sex are the same as those for regular sex. Do whatever gives you pleasure and discuss your desires and boundaries with your partner in advance. Just like regular sex, kinky sex is never 100% safe. Make sure that both you and your sex partner are aware of the risks and well prepared for what is to come. Look for additional information or read about other people's experiences on the Internet in advance, for example.

Rules of play to keep kinky sex healthy include:

  • Safe: keep kinky sex as safe as possible. Prevent STIs and wounds.
  • Sane: stay focused. Be aware of the effects of alcohol and drugs (chems).
  • Consensual: discuss with your partner what you are planning to do together and only practice kinky sex if both of you consent to it.


Especially during role-play sessions and during sex that involves bondage and SM, it can be difficult to protect your boundaries. For that reason, it is important to decide together on the rules of play in advance and on a safeword that you can use to stop your kinky sex play immediately if necessary.

Rules of play to keep kinky sex healthy include

  • Safe: keep kinky sex as safe as possible. Prevent STIs and wounds
  • Sane: stay focused. Be aware of the effects of alcohol and drugs (chems).
  • Consensual: discuss with your partner what you are planning to do together and only practice kinky sex if both of you consent to it.

Especially during role-play sessions and during sex that involves bondage and SM, it can be difficult to protect your boundaries. For that reason, it is important to decide together on the rules of play in advance and on a safeword that you can use to stop your kinky sex play immediately if necessary.

As you want to know the score and have peace of mind

Easy and fast HIV test, anonymous: Municipal Health Service Amsterdam temporarily offers HIV self-test service, check: www.time2test.nl. An easy-to-take test, without blood involved. Results after 20 minutes.


Quote

"Not obliged to do something, everything is possible (if safe!)"